Dark night of the soul
An arrowhead straight to our deepest learning-
We practice our positive thinking, we do our mindfulness meditation, we read metres of self-help books, we keep fit, we eat healthily, we do regular random acts of kindness, we care for our friends and families, we forgive, we remind ourselves to be thankful, we work hard, we’re patient. Wow, we almost qualify in Buddhist Monkdom. And then the proverbial s***t hits the fan. Maybe something earth shattering, hideous, tragic, mind-numbingly awful happens and our world cracks wide open. We fall into the abyss with nothing to save us. Or maybe it’s not as bad as that, but it was unexpected and it causes us pain and hurt. And all we can hear is the ringing in our ears- “but I was good, I did good, I played by the rules, why me?” The truth is we can’t stop bad stuff happening but as we crawl back towards the light, there is one thing we can do. We can ask what we can learn from this experience. Did we feel our friends rally round, did we see there was a love deeper than we ever knew, did we realise we can survive something we never imagined we could, did we find an epiphany? Maybe the lesson is subtle but it will always be there. Find it, because it is your way forward. The more you learn to look for those little lessons in daily life, when we have a bad day, when we lose a contract, when we get yet another rejection letter, when we mislay our keys or leave our week’s cash dangling in the cash point machine (yes I did that), the more we will be able to see and learn from the big terrifying lessons when they hit. As they say, it is darkest before the dawn. But there is always hope.